Online Betrayal Trauma Therapy
in Massachusetts, Washington State, & Oregon
Freedom From Partner Betrayal Trauma
Stop Living in Survival Mode
It’s 3am and you’re awake again. Not because of an alarm or a noise, but because your brain decided to replay that scene: the one where you found out. Maybe you find yourself checking their phone while they sleep or they’re in the shower.
Morning comes, and your partner kisses you goodbye as they leave for work. They mention they’re running late to a meeting. As they rush out the door, your heart is racing. What meeting? You check their location again.
At lunch with a friend, you’re nodding along to their story when suddenly your mind isn’t there anymore. You’re seeing them together, imagining details your mind fills in like a movie director. Your friend asks if you’re okay. You say you’re just tired.
Evening used to be your favorite time together. Now you watch them watching TV, studying their face for signs of... what? Guilt? More lies? When they laugh at their phone, your chest tightens. “Who’s that?” you ask, trying to sound casual. They show you. It’s their mom. You don’t believe them.
You catch yourself scrolling through her Instagram, comparing. You know it doesn’t help and you regret it every time, but you can’t seem to stop. You’re determined not to miss the signs again.
You’re experiencing symptoms of partner betrayal trauma:
Unwanted thoughts of the betrayal, even when you’re trying not to think about it
Constantly scanning for signs of deception, checking phones/emails, or being overly alert to potential threats, whether in this relationship or the next one
Difficulty falling asleep, staying asleep, or experiencing nightmares related to the betrayal
Feeling disconnected from emotions, relationships, or activities that once brought joy
Sudden and intense fear, racing heart, upset stomach, or other physical symptoms when triggered by reminders of the betrayal
Difficulty trusting others, withdrawing from relationships, or feeling unable to form new relationships
Headaches, stomach issues, muscle tension, or other physical problems that developed after the betrayal
Learn more about betrayal trauma & post-infidelity stress disorder here.
You’ve done a lot of work to feel better…
Whether you’re rebuilding your relationship or starting over on your own, you’ve probably processed your partner’s betrayal verbally until you’re exhausted.
You’ve participated in couples therapy, you’ve read “Not Just Friends,” and joined the betrayed partners Facebook group.
Despite your efforts, you still feel triggered by everyday situations.
Here’s why: talking about the betrayal helps you understand what happened and why. But understanding doesn’t stop the detective work or the panic when your spouse takes longer than normal to text you back.
That’s because betrayal trauma lives in your nervous system, not your brain’s logic or reason. You can know rationally that they’re at the grocery store, and still have your body respond like they’re lying again.
This is where Accelerated Resolution Therapy (ART) comes in: ART addresses the traumatic impact of betrayal that just talking simply can’t.
How Partner Betrayal Trauma Changes After ART…
After 1-5 ART sessions, many people who have experienced partner betrayal trauma are able to do things like:
Rebuild trust, or build it fresh with someone new. If you’re working on the relationship, you’ll be able to assess your partner’s trustworthiness based on their current actions, not constant fear. You’re able to engage in the relationship work that still needs to happen: couples therapy, rebuilding agreements, repairing connection, without your nervous system hijacking every conversation. The facts of what happened don’t disappear, but your ability to move forward without being controlled by trauma symptoms becomes possible.
On the other hand, if you’re leaving, you can eventually open yourself to new relationships without carrying this relationship’s trauma into the next one.
The obsessive investigation simply stops. You're not replaying timelines at 3am anymore, not cross-referencing business trips with credit card statements, not building elaborate mental spreadsheets of every inconsistency. Your brain loses interest in the detective work because the emotional urgency driving it is gone.
Your body stops reacting like you’re under attack. The nausea when certain songs come on disappears, the tension headaches stop, the physical pain in your chest when something triggers you evaporates. Your body recognizes you’re safe now, even when reminders of the betrayal appear.
Sex becomes about the two of you again. Physical intimacy doesn’t trigger mental movies of them with someone else. Your body responds to what’s actually happening in front of you instead of what happened months ago.
You hear their car pull in and your nervous system stays calm. No chest tightening, no bracing for impact, no scanning their face for micro-expressions when they walk through the door. They come home and your body recognizes safety instead of threat.
You stop comparing yourself to the affair partner. The mental side-by-side scrutiny ends, you’re not analyzing what they have that you lack, not picking apart your body or personality in comparison. That particular torture loses its grip completely.
The affair partner becomes a fact without emotional charge. You know they exist the same way you know what year your partner graduated college, information without voltage. You might mention them in passing the way you'd reference any other historical detail, neutral and matter-of-fact.
You recognize yourself again. The person who checks phones and stalks social media and can’t think about anything else isn’t you anymore. You get yourself back: the person you were before betrayal took over your entire personality and turned you into someone you don’t recognize.
You rejoin your life socially. You stop avoiding friends because you’re ashamed of the betrayal. You can have conversations about other topics. You’re not the person who can only talk about what happened to them anymore, and you’re not isolated because you’re tired of seeing pity or judgment in people’s faces.
Specific places lose their meaning entirely. You drive past strip clubs or specific hotels thinking about your grocery list. These locations become geography again instead of crime scenes.
The shame about not knowing dissolves. You stop feeling stupid for missing the signs, stop being embarrassed that this happened to you, stop cringing at your own “crazy” behavior after discovery.
You make decisions from clarity instead of crisis. Whether you stay or leave, the choice comes from what you actually want for your future, not from trying to escape constant triggering. You can think five years ahead instead of white-knuckling your way through today.
Accelerated Resolution Therapy: 1-5 Sessions for Partner Betrayal Trauma Relief…
What Makes ART Different From Other Approaches For Partner Betrayal?
While traditional therapy focuses on talking through the partner betrayal and understanding it intellectually, ART targets the actual images, emotions, and sensations stored in your brain that trigger you.
Using guided eye movements (similar to what your body naturally does during sleep), ART works directly to “reprogram” how distressing memories are stored in your brain so they no longer trigger automatic physical and emotional reactions.
Think of it like reorganizing a filing system in your brain. Right now, partner betrayal-related memories are filed in your “immediate threat” folder. This makes your nervous system react as if danger is present every time betrayal-related memories are accessed.
ART helps move these memories into a different filing system: one labeled “past events that no longer require emergency response.” The facts and knowledge of what happened remain the same, but your brain’s and body’s automatic reaction changes completely.
And the best news is that this neurological change is automatic. It’s not something you have to consciously choose or work at maintaining.
Does It Really Work for Partner Betrayal? Yes.
Your nervous system’s response to partner betrayal is a trauma response, and ART is designed to resolve it — fast.
In my practice, I’ve seen clients report significant relief, like the end of years-long anxiety, after just 1-2 sessions.
But don’t just take my word for it. Here’s what the science tells us:
Rapid results: The data shows that most clients see significant relief in 1-5 sessions, not months or years. The efficiency of ART means you can stop spending your time managing symptoms and start living your life again.
Exceptional completion rates: 94% of people who start ART complete it. Compare this to ~60% for traditional talk therapy. People stick with ART because they can feel that it’s working quickly.
Studies on ART consistently show it’s 2-4 times more powerful than traditional therapy at creating lasting change in how your brain and body respond to trauma triggers.
The research confirms that ART effectively calms the trauma response that betrayal creates, allowing your nervous system to finally return to a state of safety.
ART is an investment in your freedom, mental health, and overall well-being.
A 90-minute Accelerated Resolution Therapy session is $500.
The average ART treatment length is 3.7 sessions. This makes ART not only one of the most effective trauma treatments available, but also one of the most efficient.
Total investment for most clients: $500-$2,500
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I specialize in all types of partner betrayal: infidelity, sexual affairs, emotional affairs, pornography, financial deception, hidden substance use, etc.
The common thread is that your partner — someone you deeply trusted — fundamentally violated that trust, leaving you with symptoms of betrayal trauma. ART addresses that trauma response directly.
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No. You don’t have to share any of the specifics. ART works with the images and sensations stored in your nervous system, not the verbal story. You can keep the details private and still process the trauma completely. Many clients find this privacy one of the most relieving aspects of ART.
This is especially helpful for people who are processing a business betrayal or work trauma and they have signed an NDA.
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It will probably change the anger.
The trauma-driven anger (the kind that spikes your heart rate when you see their phone, the rage that wakes you up, the flooding that makes you say things you regret)… that part will likely soften because it’s tied to the trauma symptoms that ART helps to resolve.
What remains is more like clear-eyed assessment. You might still be angry, but it’s probably not the same white-hot, dysregulated anger. It’s more like: “What you did was wrong, and I’m deciding what I want to do about it.”
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That’s completely normal. ART helps your nervous system calm down so that you can think clearly about those types of decisions. Right now, trauma is making every decision feel urgent and next to impossible.
After ART, you’ll still have the same choices to make, but you’ll be making them from a regulated place instead of from panic, rage, or numbness.
Many clients say they couldn’t even think about the relationship question clearly until their nervous system settled.
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Great question. Both ART and EMDR use eye movements to help your brain reprocess traumatic memories, but there are some key differences in how they work and how quickly you’ll see results.
ART is more directive and structured. We focus on specific images that are triggering you and actively replace them with ones that feel neutral or empowering. There’s no homework between sessions, and each session is complete in itself; you won’t leave feeling worse or need to “process” between appointments.
EMDR is more exploratory. Your therapist follows where your associations lead, which can be valuable but also means sessions are less predictable. Some people find they feel worse temporarily as they process, and treatment typically takes longer (8-12+ sessions vs 1-5 for ART).
For betrayal trauma specifically, most of my clients appreciate that ART:
Gets results faster (you’re not in therapy for months)
Doesn’t require you to talk through every detail of what happened
Leaves you feeling complete after each session, not raw or triggered
Actively replaces disturbing images rather than just desensitizing you to them
If you’ve tried EMDR and it helped but didn’t fully resolve things, or if it felt too slow or destabilizing, ART often works well as an alternative.
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Based on ART research for trauma generally, most issues resolve in 1-5 sessions, with a 94% treatment completion rate.
In my practice, I’ve seen partner betrayal trauma resolve in 1-2 sessions. For partners in couples therapy, this means that the betrayal trauma is no longer a barrier to making progress in working on the relationship. For partners who decide to leave the relationship, this means that the betrayal trauma is no longer hindering their grief or healing processes.
We’ll start with one session and assess from there. You’ll know after the first session if ART is working for you because most people feel noticeably different before they leave.
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I see clients located anywhere in Massachusetts, Washington State, and Oregon.
I am also registered to see clients in Florida and Vermont.
About Allyson Clemmons, LICSW
Partner Betrayal Trauma Therapist
My specialization in partner betrayal trauma emerged from years of treating affairs as a couples therapist. While couples work was essential for the relationship, I noticed betrayed partners also needed specialized individual therapy that wasn’t available. They would only find generic trauma treatment that kept them talking in circles for months, while their nervous systems remained hijacked by the betrayal.
I noticed that partner betrayal creates a specific type of trauma that requires targeted treatment. The neurological impact is profound, and it doesn’t resolve through insight or understanding alone.
Now I exclusively use Accelerated Resolution Therapy to help people move from obsessive investigating and constant triggering to genuine peace in just 1-5 sessions. You don’t need to manage partner betrayal trauma indefinitely. You can actually resolve it.
Licensed in Massachusetts, Washington, & Oregon
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