Allyson Clemmons, LICSW
Trauma Therapy for Betrayed Partners After Infidelity
Virtual Sessions Available for Residents of Massachusetts, Washington State, Oregon, Colorado, & Florida
You found out about the infidelity, and nothing has felt right since…
The discovery of infidelity lives in your body. Your sleep is nonexistent, or it’s broken by the same images that interrupt your day.
You’re carrying the betrayal as headaches, stomach problems that didn’t used to be there, or a jaw you can’t unclench.
The discovery lives in your relationships. Your partner is sleeping on the couch, or in the guest room, or you’ve asked them to leave entirely, and the house has a different feeling that you can’t fix by cleaning, scrolling, or going to bed early.
You sit through dinner with your kids and realize afterward you missed most of what they said because you were turning over the details of the infidelity in your head again.
Your friends mean well, but the ones who haven’t been through this keep telling you to “give it time” or “trust your gut,” and the ones who may actually understand are the ones you can’t tell because they know your partner.
And it’s in your relationship with yourself. You wonder if you are unworthy of being loved and chosen. You feel inadequate.
You’re checking your partner’s phone, then hating yourself for checking, then checking again because the not-knowing is worse than what you might find. You’re running through the last two years looking for the moments you should have caught it.
Underneath everything, a question: how much of what you thought was real actually was, and what does it mean that you didn’t see it coming?
→ Learn more about individual therapy for betrayed partners here.
Learn more about betrayal trauma therapy by watching the video here…
Healing from the trauma of infidelity on your terms…
One of the most damaging messages betrayed partners receive is that they should be “over it” within an arbitrary timeframe.
Your partner wants to know when you’ll be able to forgive them, friends and family have opinions about how you should handle what happened, and you may be frustrated with yourself because, despite everything you’ve learned about the infidelity, you still can’t stop thinking about it.
Understanding what happened doesn’t necessarily change the way you react to it. You can know that your partner made their own choices and still feel sick when you imagine them with someone else. Even when you know the affair has ended, your heart may still race when their phone lights up.
Accelerated Resolution Therapy (ART) addresses the memories, images, and physical reactions that continue to upset you. Using guided eye movements and imagery techniques, I help you work with memories of discovering the infidelity, unwanted sexual images, and other reminders that still bring on intense anger, anxiety, or nausea. You don’t have to repeatedly describe every detail of the betrayal for us to address those reactions.
I work with people who are rebuilding their relationships, people who have separated or divorced, and people who are still figuring out what they want. Some discovered the infidelity recently, while others have been living with its effects for years.
Regardless of your circumstances, treatment focuses on reducing the traumatic effects of what happened so that the betrayal stops intruding on your daily life.
You’ve probably never heard this about betrayal trauma: you don’t have to wait months to start feeling like yourself again.
I offer betrayal trauma treatment in 90-minute sessions. Some clients experience substantial relief after their first appointment, and others benefit from a handful of sessions to address different memories or experiences associated with the betrayal.
You can schedule appointments one at a time, without committing to months of weekly therapy.
For more information about how ART works, you can watch the video at the top of this page or read my explanation of the treatment process.
You’ll find the $750 session fee and other payment details on my rates page. If you’re ready to schedule, keep reading to learn what happens after you book your first appointment.
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Schedule your first session
Book your session on my secure calendar here. You will be prompted to select a date and time, as well as provide your contact information.
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Receive your new client forms via email and digitally sign them
After booking, you’ll receive intake forms by email, typically within an hour. Please review and digitally sign them within 48 hours. Instructions for completing these forms will be included in the email I send you.
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Heal the betrayal at its root
We’ll meet at your scheduled time. We’ll begin with a brief review of what brought you in, then we’ll get into the ART protocol from there.
About Allyson Clemmons, LICSW
Partner Betrayal Trauma Therapist
My specialization in partner betrayal trauma emerged from years of treating infidelity as a couples therapist.
While couples work was essential for the relationship, I noticed betrayed partners also needed specialized individual therapy that wasn’t available.
Now, I work with betrayed partners in a half-day intensive format so that they can keep the knowledge of what happened and lose the pain that came with it (learn about how it works here).
Licensed in Massachusetts, Washington, & Oregon
Registered to provide telehealth services in Florida & Colorado
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