Online individual therapy in Quincy, the South Shore, and throughout Massachusetts for betrayal, affairs, and infidelity.
Online Individual Therapy for Betrayal Trauma in Quincy and the South Shore
Specialized Individual Therapy for Partner Betrayal and Infidelity in Quincy and the South Shore
You keep going back through your relationship trying to figure out what was real. The anniversary trip you planned for months, was that before or after it started? The night they came home late from a “client dinner” and kissed you on the forehead, where had they been?
Every memory looks different now, and the hardest part is that you can’t trust your own read of anything anymore. You were doing the school pickups and the weekend soccer games, living your life, and you had no idea what was really going on with your partner.
Now when your partner’s phone buzzes, your stomach drops, and when they mention grabbing drinks after work, you’re imagining worst case scenario.
You picture your partner with another person, filling in the details from whatever you know or suspect, and you see those mental images throughout the day, even when you’re trying not to think about it.
You often compare yourself to the other person and question why you weren’t the one your partner chose. You wonder whether or not you’ll ever feel good enough again.
You’ve started memorizing their screen time, checking their location from your car before you walk into work, and scrolling through months of old texts looking for anything that doesn’t line up. Your jaw is sore, your stomach is in knots, and your sleep is broken by nightmares or the urge to check their phone at 3am.
Like most of my clients, you’ve probably found that knowing the facts about the affair hasn’t made healing from it any easier.
Find out if betrayal trauma therapy is right for you by watching the video here…
Talk Therapy Falls Short for Infidelity and Betrayal Trauma
Accelerated Resolution Therapy is a body-based trauma modality.
The reason it works is because the effects of betrayal “live” in different parts of the brain than insight, skills, and understanding.
Having a clearer understanding of the affair, talking it through, or building better coping skills can be useful, but those don’t fundamentally change how your body responds when unwanted thoughts of the infidelity pop up in your day-to-day life.
What makes ART different from most therapy is the pace. Change happens within a session rather than across weeks or months, and many clients tend to describe the memories and images becoming more dull and losing their emotional intensity.
What Life Looks Like After You Heal Betrayal Trauma at the Root
Your body stops being on high-alert for more bad news. The jaw clenching, the stomach problems, the tension headaches, the 3am wakeups with your heart pounding stop being your “new normal”. You sleep through the night and your appetite returns. You wake up thinking about the day ahead, not about what your partner did. The normal grief and sadness about what happened is still there, but it becomes possible for you to concentrate at work and show up for your children.
The images stop popping up. The scenes that have been showing up in your head when you’re trying not to think about them — the texts you found, the moment your partner admitted to the infidelity, the bank statements that didn’t make sense — stop coming up randomly. And when you do think about them, they feel dull. After the intensive, clients describe the thoughts and images as feeling distant, like something that happened in the past, instead of something that keeps happening to them now. This means the anxiety and rumination stop on their own, without you having to “try.”
You stop measuring your worth by what your partner did. When you think about the affair now, you think of it as something your partner decided to do, and you stop asking what’s wrong with you every time the memory comes up. You feel sad that this is what your partner chose, but it no longer reflects on how “good enough” you are. Whether or not your partner chooses you going forward, you know you’re worth choosing.
You trust your own judgment again. You make a decision about your relationship, your finances, or your living situation, and you don’t need to run it past three friends and your sister to make sure you’re not crazy. The fog of “what if I’m wrong about everything else too?” clears. The intrusive thoughts that have been telling you not to trust your partner, not to trust yourself, that you’re going to make a permanent mistake, lose their authority. You can recognize them as betrayal-driven, not as truth.
You have bandwidth to spend on the people you love. Your daughter tells you about her math test on Friday afternoon, and instead of “how was it, mm-hm, that’s great,” you’re listening. As she’s talking, you notice she’s gotten taller. If you’re rebuilding your relationship, you can sit across from your partner and have the hard conversation without feeling like you’re going to throw up. If you’re leaving or if your partner left, you can sleep through your first night in the new place without staring at the ceiling, mentally replaying every sign you missed.
The facts of the betrayal don’t disappear, and you’ll still remember what happened. You’ll think about the discovery, the texts, or the affair partner as something that happened in the past instead of something that keeps happening to you.
If you’re ready to learn about pricing and scheduling, see the rates page.
How We Heal Partner Betrayal Trauma at the Root in One Half-Day
Accelerated Resolution Therapy is an evidence-based trauma therapy. It uses back-and-forth eye movements.
You don’t talk about the betrayal in detail. Instead, you visualize the situation in your mind, as if you’re watching a scene of a movie.
During the session, we work to change the images and physical sensations your brain has stored, so that they stop intruding the way they have been.
In ART we say, “keep the knowledge, lose the pain.” You will keep the facts, but the facts will lose their emotional intensity.
By the end of the session, you’ll still know what happened and remember all of the facts. What you’ll lose is the uncomfortable bodily sensations, the unwelcome thoughts, and other symptoms that have been part of your daily life.
About Allyson Clemmons, LICSW
Quincy and South Shore Infidelity & Betrayal Trauma Therapist
My specialization in partner betrayal trauma emerged from years of treating infidelity as a couples therapist.
While couples work was essential for the relationship, I noticed betrayed partners also needed specialized individual therapy that wasn’t available.
Now, I work with betrayed partners in a half-day intensive format so that they can keep the knowledge of what happened and lose the pain that came with it.
You don’t need to manage infidelity trauma indefinitely. You can actually heal it.
Independently licensed in Massachusetts, LICSW #126480
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If you already know you would like to get scheduled, please do so using my secure, HIPAA-compliant calendar below. No need to contact me first unless you want to.
Here’s how payment and intake forms work —
The intensive is typically ~4 hours and a flat-fee of $1,950.
You’ll use my secure calendar below to choose a date and time for your intensive.
After you book, you’ll receive an email invitation to complete your new client forms, which include your payment details.
Once you sign your forms, your 50% ($975) booking deposit is charged and your intensive date is confirmed. The remaining 50% ($975) is charged 24 hours before your session.
If your forms aren’t completed within 48 hours of booking, you won’t be charged. However, I’ll cancel your appointment and open that date to other clients. You’re always welcome to book a new date once you’re ready to complete the forms.
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See my FAQ page, or use the contact form to ask me directly (scroll down to use the form). I respond within 1-2 business days, but usually much faster.
For questions, please contact me using the secure, HIPAA-compliant form below.
Quincy & South Shore Areas Served
I provide online partner betrayal trauma therapy to residents throughout Quincy, the South Shore, and Plymouth County.
Quincy: Quincy Center • Wollaston • North Quincy • Squantum • Marina Bay • Quincy Point • West Quincy • Houghs Neck
Milton, Braintree, and Weymouth: Milton • Braintree • Weymouth • Randolph • Holbrook
The coastal South Shore: Hull • Hingham • Cohasset • Scituate • Marshfield • Duxbury
Plymouth County: Norwell • Hanover • Pembroke • Rockland • Abington • Whitman • Kingston • Plymouth
Independently licensed in Massachusetts, LICSW #126480
Also offering partner betrayal trauma therapy in Boston, Cambridge, and throughout Massachusetts.
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