Specialized individual therapy for infidelity and affair trauma.
Individual Therapy for Partner Betrayal Trauma in Bellevue & on the Eastside
Online partner betrayal trauma therapy in Bellevue and throughout all of Washington State.
Online Betrayal Trauma Therapy in Bellevue After Infidelity and Affairs
Online individual therapy
After finding out about infidelity, many betrayed partners say they feel inadequate, unworthy, and “not chosen.”
Whether your partner had an affair, paid for sex, kept a profile on a dating app, or hid a pornography habit, part of what you’re dealing with is the sense that when your partner had a choice between you and someone else, they didn’t choose you.
You keep recalculating the timeline of the infidelity, like the evenings they said they were working late. You wonder whether the affair had already started, and every answer you come up with just creates more questions and makes you trust your own judgment less.
You’ve become an investigator, checking your partner’s location, texts, and emails. You imagine things you never actually saw. Your jaw aches by morning, your stomach is in knots, and your sleep is broken up by nightmares.
You may have gone down a Reddit rabbit hole late at night, trying to make sense of all the feelings and thoughts you have after finding out about your partner’s infidelity. You learn that your reactions are normal and expected. And yet you still wonder if you’ll ever feel good enough.
→ Learn more about my approach to treating partner betrayal trauma here.
Find out if betrayal trauma therapy is right for you by watching the video here…
Talk Therapy Falls Short for Infidelity and Betrayal Trauma
Accelerated Resolution Therapy is a body-based trauma modality.
The reason it works is because the effects of infidelity “live” in different parts of the brain than insight, skills, and understanding.
Having a clearer understanding of the affair, talking it through, or building better coping skills can be useful, but those don’t fundamentally change how your body responds when looping thoughts of the infidelity pop up in your day-to-day life.
What makes ART different from most therapy is the pace. Change happens within a session rather than across weeks or months, and many clients tend to describe the memories and images becoming more dull and losing their emotional intensity.
What Life Looks Like After You Heal Infidelity Trauma at the Root
Your body stops being on high-alert for more bad news. The jaw clenching, the stomach problems, the tension headaches, the 3am wakeups with your heart pounding stop being your baseline. You sleep through the night and your appetite returns. You wake up thinking about your day, not about what your partner did. The grief about what happened is still there, but it becomes possible for you to concentrate at work and show up for your children.
The images stop popping up. The scenes that have been showing up in your head when you’re trying not to think about them — the texts you found, the moment your partner admitted to the infidelity, the bank statements that didn’t make sense — stop coming up randomly. And when you do think about them, they feel dull. Clients describe the thoughts and images as feeling distant, like something that happened in the past, instead of something that keeps happening to them now. This means the anxiety and rumination stop on their own, without you having to “try.”
You stop measuring yourself against the affair partner. You can see their name in an email thread or their photo on social media, feel annoyed or sad for a minute, and then go back to what you were doing instead of spending the evening asking yourself what they have that you don’t.
You trust your own judgment again. You make a decision about your marriage, your finances, or your living situation, and you don’t need to run it past three friends and your sister to make sure you’re not crazy. The nagging question of “what if I’m wrong about everything else too?” goes away. The intrusive thoughts that have been telling you not to trust your partner, not to trust yourself, that you’re going to make a permanent mistake, lose their intensity. You can recognize them as betrayal-driven, not as truth, and they don’t dictate what you do next.
You have bandwidth to spend on the people you love. Your daughter tells you about her math test on Friday afternoon, and instead of “how was it, mm-hm, that’s great,” you’re listening. As she’s talking, you notice she’s gotten taller. If you’re rebuilding your relationship, you can sit across from your partner and have the hard conversation without feeling like you’re going to throw up. If you’re leaving or if your partner left, you can sleep through your first night in the new place without staring at the ceiling, mentally replaying every sign you missed.
The facts of the betrayal don’t disappear, and you’ll still remember what happened. The discovery, the texts, or the affair partner now feel like something that happened in the past, instead of something that keeps happening to you.
If you’re ready to learn about pricing and scheduling, see the rates page.
How We Heal Partner Betrayal Trauma at the Root in One Half-Day
Accelerated Resolution Therapy is an evidence-based trauma therapy. It uses back-and-forth eye movements.
You don’t talk about the betrayal in detail. Instead, you visualize the situation in your mind, as if you’re watching a scene of a movie.
During the session, we work to change the images and physical sensations your brain has stored, so that they stop intruding the way they have been.
In ART we say, “keep the knowledge, lose the pain.” You will keep the facts, but the facts will lose their emotional intensity.
By the end of the session, you’ll still know what happened and remember all of the facts. What you’ll lose is the uncomfortable bodily sensations, the unwelcome thoughts, and other symptoms that have been part of your daily life.
FAQs
Frequently asked questions
Don’t see your question asked and answered here? See my FAQ page for more information.
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No. All of my sessions are online, including the half-day intensive, and I don’t have an office in Bellevue or anywhere else in Washington. I’m independently licensed in Washington (LICSW #LW61398886), so you can meet with me from anywhere in the state.
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You can still work with me because every session is online and I don’t have an office in Bellevue or anywhere else.
You only need to be physically located in a state where I’m licensed or registered on the day of your intensive, which means Washington, Oregon, Massachusetts, Florida, or Colorado. You can join from anywhere in Washington or from any of those other states.
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I specialize in all types of relationship betrayal, including infidelity, physical and/or emotional affairs, pornography use, strip clubs, and paid sex with escorts and sex workers.
About Allyson Clemmons, LICSW
Bellevue therapist for infidelity & partner betrayal
My specialization in partner betrayal trauma emerged from years of working with couples after affairs and infidelity.
While couples work was essential for the relationship to heal, I noticed betrayed partners also needed specialized individual therapy that wasn’t available.
Now I exclusively use Accelerated Resolution Therapy to help people move from investigating and constant triggering to genuine peace in just a half-day intensive. You don’t need to manage the stress and trauma from betrayal indefinitely. You can actually heal it.
Independently licensed in Washington State: #LW61398886
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Self-Schedule or Contact Me Below
If you already know you would like to get scheduled, please do so using my secure, HIPAA-compliant calendar below. No need to contact me first unless you want to.
Here’s how payment and intake forms work —
The intensive is typically ~4 hours and a flat-fee of $1,950.
You’ll use my secure calendar below to choose a date and time for your intensive.
After you book, you’ll receive an email invitation to complete your new client forms, which include your payment details.
Once you sign your forms, your 50% ($975) booking deposit is charged and your intensive date is confirmed. The remaining 50% ($975) is charged 24 hours before your session.
If your forms aren’t completed within 48 hours of booking, you won’t be charged. However, I’ll cancel your appointment and open that date to other clients. You’re always welcome to book a new date once you’re ready to complete the forms.
Have a question about logistics before scheduling?
See my FAQ page, or use the contact form to ask me directly (scroll down to use the form). I respond within 1-2 business days, but usually much faster.
For questions, please contact me using the secure, HIPAA-compliant form below.
Individual therapy for partner betrayal trauma in Bellevue and all of Washington
Individual Partner Betrayal Trauma Therapy in Bellevue and the Eastside
I provide online partner betrayal trauma therapy to clients located in Bellevue, the Eastside, and anywhere in Washington. Every session happens by secure, HIPAA-compliant telehealth.
Bellevue: Downtown Bellevue • West Bellevue • Wilburton • Crossroads • Lake Hills • Bridle Trails • Factoria • Eastgate • Somerset • Newport Hills • Enatai • Woodridge
The Points communities and Mercer Island: Medina • Clyde Hill • Hunts Point • Yarrow Point • Beaux Arts Village • Mercer Island
Kirkland: Juanita • Finn Hill • Totem Lake • Kingsgate • Rose Hill • Houghton • Moss Bay
Redmond: Downtown Redmond • Education Hill • Overlake • Redmond Ridge
Sammamish, Issaquah, and Newcastle: Sammamish • Pine Lake • Klahanie • Issaquah • Issaquah Highlands • Newcastle
North Eastside: Woodinville • Bothell • Kenmore
Snoqualmie Valley: Snoqualmie • North Bend • Fall City • Carnation • Duvall
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