Rapid relief from post-infidelity stress disorder in 1-5 sessions
Therapy for Partner Betrayal Trauma in Bellevue & the Eastside
Online throughout all of Washington State
Seattle Betrayal Trauma Therapy: Partner Infidelity and Affairs
Using Accelerated Resolution Therapy (ART)
Expert Therapy for Partner Betrayal and Infidelity on the Eastside
Maybe it was a credit card transaction that didn’t make sense, or a text notification that lit up their phone while they were in the shower. However it happened, your life split into before and after in a matter of seconds.
That was weeks or months ago, but you still can’t function the way you used to.
You’re a person who handles things. You manage complex projects, lead teams, make high-stakes decisions. But right now you can’t get through a single meeting without your mind drifting to what you found. You’re reading the same email four times without absorbing a word. You’re canceling dinners with friends because the idea of pretending everything is fine at a restaurant in downtown Bellevue makes you physically sick.
At home, it’s worse. You've become someone you don't recognize: checking their location every twenty minutes, scrolling through months of old texts looking for inconsistencies, lying awake replaying conversations and wondering which parts were real. You’ve memorized their schedule, their screen time, their battery percentage. You hate that you do this but you do it anyway.
The worst part might be the intrusive images. They show up without warning: in the middle of a presentation, while you’re helping your kid with homework, while you’re trying to fall asleep. Your brain keeps generating scenes you didn’t witness, filling in details you never asked for. And your body responds like it’s happening right now: racing heart, tight chest, nausea, the shaking you can’t seem to stop.
You’ve probably tried to talk yourself through it. You understand what happened. You might even understand why it happened. But understanding doesn’t stop the anxiety spirals. Insight doesn’t calm the panic you feel when they're fifteen minutes late getting home from the Microsoft campus. Knowing the affair is over doesn’t stop your nervous system from acting like the threat is still active.
Maybe you’ve tried therapy already with someone in Kirkland or Redmond. It helped you understand the “why.” But the triggers haven’t changed. Your body still reacts like the betrayal just happened five minutes ago, or is about to happen.
I specialize in partner betrayal and infidelity, including sexual affairs, emotional affairs, and pornography betrayal. I offer Accelerated Resolution Therapy (ART) to my Bellevue and Eastside clients; a rapid, evidence-based approach that resolves partner betrayal trauma in 1-5 sessions, not months or years of talk therapy.
Learn more about my approach to treating partner betrayal trauma here.
Learn more about online partner betrayal trauma therapy by watching the video here…
How Betrayal Trauma Changes After ART…
After 1-5 ART sessions, many people who have experienced betrayal trauma describe their healing journey like this:
You sleep through the night and wake up ready for your day. No more jolting awake at 3am from a nightmare, no more grinding your teeth so hard your jaw aches by morning. You fall asleep because you’re tired, not because you’ve exhausted yourself with anxiety. And when you wake up, your first thought is about your day ahead, not about what they might be hiding.
You make clear decisions about your relationship and your life. Right now, every choice feels difficult because trauma is running the show. After ART, you can sit down and think about what you want: stay and work on the relationship, separate and divorce, have the hard conversations; whatever it is, you’re deciding from clarity instead of rage or confusion. Your judgment becomes something you trust again.
You stop investigating and start living. You realize one evening that you haven’t thought about checking their phone in weeks. You use the time you would have spent investigating getting back to that side project, taking the kids to Idylwood Park, or catching up with a friend over dinner in Kirkland.
You can have difficult conversations without spiraling. You bring up something that needs to be said — about the kids, about finances, about the future of the relationship — and your voice stays steady. An hour later, you’re making dinner or watching a show instead of replaying every word and catastrophizing about what it means. The conversation stays in its lane instead of taking over your whole evening.
You can be intimate again, or choose not to be, without trauma making that decision for you. Whether you’re rebuilding your relationship or starting over with someone new eventually, physical closeness stops being hijacked by intrusive images and involuntary tension. Your body is yours again. You get to decide what you want based on desire, not dread.
Work feels like work again. You sit in your morning standup or your client meeting and you're actually there. Your brain isn't splitting its attention between the agenda and an obsessive mental loop. Your colleagues stop asking if you're okay because there's nothing to notice anymore. You hit deadlines because your focus came back — not because you're overcompensating to hold it together.
Your kids get the version of you they deserve. You’re present for bedtime stories without your mind wandering. You handle their meltdowns with patience instead of snapping because your own nervous system is already maxed out. You laugh at their jokes genuinely, not performatively. Saturday mornings at Crossroads Park or the Bellevue farmers market feel normal again.
Places are just places. You drive past the restaurant where they met the other person and you don’t flinch. The parking lot at Bellevue Square where you sat in your car and read the texts is just a parking lot. The route through downtown Redmond you’ve been avoiding is just the fastest way to get where you’re going. The emotional charge attached to these locations dissolves, and your world opens back up.
Accelerated Resolution Therapy: 1-5 Sessions for Betrayal Trauma Relief…
What Makes ART Different From other approaches?
While traditional therapy focuses on talking through the betrayal and understanding it, ART targets the actual images, emotions, and sensations stored in your brain that trigger you — this is exactly why ART works so quickly.
Using guided eye movements (similar to what your body naturally does during sleep), ART works directly to “reprogram” how distressing memories are stored in your brain so they no longer trigger automatic physical and emotional reactions.
Think of it like reorganizing a filing system in your brain. Right now, betrayal-related memories are filed in your “immediate threat” folder, causing your nervous system to react as if danger is present every time they’re accessed.
ART helps move these memories into a different filing system: one labeled “past events that no longer require emergency response.” The facts remain the same, but your brain’s automatic reaction changes completely.
And the best news is that this neurological change is automatic. It’s not something you have to consciously choose or work at maintaining.
But Does It Really Work for Betrayal? The Evidence Says Yes.
Your brain’s response to betrayal is a trauma response, and ART is designed to resolve it fast.
Here’s what the science tells us:
Rapid results: Most clients see significant relief in 1-5 sessions, not months or years. The efficiency of ART means you can stop spending your life managing symptoms and start living it again.
Exceptional completion rates: 94% of people who start ART, complete it. Compare this to ~60% for traditional talk therapy. People stick with ART because they feel it working quickly.
Profound neurological change: Studies on ART consistently show effect sizes (a measure of treatment strength) that are 2-4 times stronger than traditional therapy.
It works for the tough cases: ART showed a 61% major improvement rate in combat veterans with PTSD.
The research confirms what we see in practice: ART effectively calms the overactive threat response that betrayal trauma creates, allowing your nervous system to finally return to a state of safety.
ART is an investment in your freedom, mental health, and overall well-being.
Half-Day Intensive: $2,500
Up to 4 hours of focused treatment in a single session, plus follow-up check-ins at one week and 30 days. This is the format most betrayal trauma clients need. The extended time gives us room to work through everything without stopping mid-process.
For comparison: 6-12 months of weekly therapy runs $3,600–$12,000+, most of it spent processing the story of what happened rather than putting a stop to the nightmares, the anxiety, and the intrusive thoughts/images.
Not sure if ART is right for your situation?
Book a single session first ($500, 90 minutes). This isn’t a shortened version of treatment; it’s a chance to experience the process and make sure we’re a good fit before committing to the intensive. If you move forward, the $500 gets credited toward your intensive cost.
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Bellevue & Eastside Area Coverage
I provide online partner betrayal trauma therapy to residents throughout the Eastside corridor and greater King County, including:
Bellevue • Kirkland • Redmond • Sammamish • Issaquah • Mercer Island • Woodinville • Bothell • Kenmore • Newcastle • Medina • Clyde Hill • Hunts Point • Yarrow Point • Beaux Arts Village
FAQs
Frequently asked questions
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I specialize in all types of betrayal: relationship betrayal (infidelity, affairs, emotional affairs, pornography addiction, financial deception), family betrayals (parent affairs that destroyed your family, sibling betrayals, inheritance disputes, family business conflicts, discovering family secrets), friendship betrayals (best friend betrayals, social group exclusions, confidences violated), and professional betrayals (business partnership deception, workplace affairs that affected you, mentor violations of trust).
The common thread is that someone you trusted fundamentally violated that trust, leaving you with symptoms of betrayal trauma. Whether it was a spouse, parent, sibling, best friend, or business partner, your nervous system responds the same way, and ART addresses that trauma response directly.
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No. You don’t have to share any of the specifics. ART works with the images and sensations stored in your nervous system, not the verbal story. You can keep the details private and still process the trauma completely. Many clients find this privacy one of the most relieving aspects of ART.
This is especially helpful for people who are processing a business betrayal or work trauma and they have signed an NDA.
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That’s completely normal. ART helps your nervous system calm down so that you can think clearly about those types of decisions. Right now, trauma is making every decision feel urgent and next to impossible.
After ART, you’ll still have the same choices to make, but you’ll be making them from a regulated place instead of from panic, rage, or numbness.
Many clients say they couldn’t even think about the relationship question clearly until their nervous system settled.
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Based on ART research for trauma generally, most issues resolve in 1-5 sessions, with a 94% treatment completion rate.
While there isn’t specific published research on betrayal trauma and ART yet, complex trauma typically takes 4-5 sessions, while single-incident traumas often need just 1-2.
We'll start with one session and assess from there. You’ll know after the first session if ART is working for you because most people feel noticeably different before they leave.
About Allyson Clemmons, LICSW
My specialization in partner betrayal trauma emerged from years of working with couples after affairs and infidelity. While couples work was essential for the relationship to heal, I noticed betrayed partners also needed specialized individual therapy that wasn’t available. They would only find generic trauma treatment that kept them talking in circles for months, while their nervous systems remained hijacked by the betrayal.
I noticed that partner betrayal creates a specific type of trauma that requires targeted treatment. Whether it’s infidelity, family betrayal, or professional betrayal, the neurological impact is profound, and it doesn’t resolve through insight or understanding alone.
Now I exclusively use Accelerated Resolution Therapy to help people move from investigating and constant triggering to genuine peace in just 1-5 sessions. You don’t need to manage partner betrayal trauma indefinitely. You can actually resolve it.
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