Individual therapy for betrayed partners after infidelity and affairs
Online throughout Massachusetts
Individual Therapy for Partner Betrayal Trauma in Massachusetts
Individual Therapy for Betrayed Partners Anywhere in Massachusetts
You keep going back through your relationship trying to figure out when the lies started.
The weekend on the Cape where everything felt solid, was the affair already happening? The nights they said they were working late in Boston, were they?
Every memory gets re-examined and every answer makes you trust yourself a little less. You were building a life together, maybe on the South Shore, maybe in the western suburbs, maybe in a Cambridge triple-decker, and you missed what was happening right beside you.
Now ordinary moments feel loaded. Their phone lights up and your chest tightens, they’re late getting home and your brain constructs three scenarios before they walk in the door.
Whether you’re in Boston, Worcester, the Berkshires, or the Cape, the betrayal has seeped into the geography of your daily life. Your brain can’t go to those places without reopening the question of what was real and what wasn’t. So you take different routes, skip the places that used to be yours, because every familiar spot pulls you back into the recalculating.
Images keep arriving uninvited, scenes your brain constructed from whatever fragments you found, and they intrude at work, during time with your kids, during moments that are supposed to be quiet.
The monitoring has taken over too, checking their location from the T or from the parking lot at your office, analyzing everything they say.
Your body has been registering the toll: disrupted sleep, jaw tension, stomach problems, headaches.
The person you were before this feels disconnected from who you are now, and therapy you’ve tried may have helped you understand what happened without changing how your body keeps responding, as though the threat is still active.
→ Read more about how I work with individual clients after infidelity.
Find out if betrayal trauma therapy is right for you by watching the video here…
Talk Therapy Falls Short for Infidelity and Betrayal Trauma
Accelerated Resolution Therapy is a body-based trauma modality.
The reason it works is because the effects of betrayal “live” in different parts of the brain than insight, skills, and understanding.
Having a clearer understanding of the affair, talking it through, or building better coping skills can be useful, but those don’t fundamentally change how your body responds when unwanted thoughts of the infidelity pop up in your day-to-day life.
What makes ART different from most therapy is the pace. Change happens within a session rather than across weeks or months, and many clients tend to describe the memories and images becoming more dull and losing their emotional intensity.
What Life Looks Like After You Heal Betrayal Trauma at the Root
Your body stops being on high-alert for more bad news. The jaw clenching, the stomach problems, the tension headaches, the 3am wakeups with your heart pounding stop being your “new normal”. You sleep through the night and your appetite returns. You wake up thinking about the day ahead, not about what your partner did. The normal grief and sadness about what happened is still there, but it becomes possible for you to concentrate at work and show up for your children.
The images stop popping up. The scenes that have been showing up in your head when you’re trying not to think about them — the texts you found, the moment your partner admitted to the infidelity, the bank statements that didn’t make sense — stop coming up randomly. And when you do think about them, they feel dull. After the intensive, clients describe the thoughts and images as feeling distant, like something that happened in the past, instead of something that keeps happening to them now. This means the anxiety and rumination stop on their own, without you having to “try.”
You stop measuring your worth by what your partner did. When you think about the affair now, you think of it as something your partner decided to do, and you stop asking what’s wrong with you every time the memory comes up. You feel sad that this is what your partner chose, but it no longer reflects on how “good enough” you are. Whether or not your partner chooses you going forward, you know you’re worth choosing.
You trust your own judgment again. You make a decision about your relationship, your finances, or your living situation, and you don’t need to run it past three friends and your sister to make sure you’re not crazy. The fog of “what if I’m wrong about everything else too?” clears. The intrusive thoughts that have been telling you not to trust your partner, not to trust yourself, that you’re going to make a permanent mistake, lose their authority. You can recognize them as betrayal-driven, not as truth.
You have bandwidth to spend on the people you love. Your daughter tells you about her math test on Friday afternoon, and instead of “how was it, mm-hm, that’s great,” you’re listening. As she’s talking, you notice she’s gotten taller. If you’re rebuilding your relationship, you can sit across from your partner and have the hard conversation without feeling like you’re going to throw up. If you’re leaving or if your partner left, you can sleep through your first night in the new place without staring at the ceiling, mentally replaying every sign you missed.
The facts of the betrayal don’t disappear, and you’ll still remember what happened. You’ll think about the discovery, the texts, or the affair partner as something that happened in the past instead of something that keeps happening to you.
If you’re ready to learn about pricing and scheduling, see the rates page.
How We Heal Partner Betrayal Trauma at the Root in One Half-Day
Accelerated Resolution Therapy is an evidence-based trauma therapy. It uses back-and-forth eye movements.
You don’t talk about the betrayal in detail. Instead, you visualize the situation in your mind, as if you’re watching a scene of a movie.
During the session, we work to change the images and physical sensations your brain has stored, so that they stop intruding the way they have been.
In ART we say, “keep the knowledge, lose the pain.” You will keep the facts, but the facts will lose their emotional intensity.
By the end of the session, you’ll still know what happened and remember all of the facts. What you’ll lose is the uncomfortable bodily sensations, the unwelcome thoughts, and other symptoms that have been part of your daily life.
About Allyson Clemmons, LICSW
Massachusetts Partner Betrayal Trauma Therapist
My specialization in partner betrayal trauma emerged from years of treating infidelity as a couples therapist.
While couples work was essential for the relationship, I noticed betrayed partners also needed specialized individual therapy that wasn’t available.
Now, I work with betrayed partners in a half-day intensive format so that they can keep the knowledge of what happened and lose the pain that came with it.
You don’t need to manage infidelity trauma indefinitely. You can actually heal it.
Independently licensed in Massachusetts, LICSW #126480
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The intensive is for the partner who was betrayed, whether you’re married, in a long-term relationship, or living together, and whether your relationship is monogamous or non-monogamous with an agreement that was broken.
I work with every form of infidelity, including a single affair, an emotional affair, repeated affairs, paying for sex, secret dating or hookup app accounts, and hidden pornography use that broke an agreement between you and your partner.
The intensive is a fit whether you found out last month or several years ago, and whether you’re staying, separating, or the relationship has already ended.
This is individual therapy only; I don’t offer couples therapy or discernment counseling.
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No. All of my sessions are online, so you can meet with me from anywhere in Massachusetts.
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No problem, because every session happens by secure video. All you need is a private space, a reliable internet connection, and a laptop or tablet for the 4 hours.
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Self-Schedule or Contact Me Below
If you already know you would like to get scheduled, please do so using my secure, HIPAA-compliant calendar below. No need to contact me first unless you want to.
Here’s how payment and intake forms work —
The intensive is typically ~4 hours and a flat-fee of $1,950.
You’ll use my secure calendar below to choose a date and time for your intensive.
After you book, you’ll receive an email invitation to complete your new client forms, which include your payment details.
Once you sign your forms, your 50% ($975) booking deposit is charged and your intensive date is confirmed. The remaining 50% ($975) is charged 24 hours before your session.
If your forms aren’t completed within 48 hours of booking, you won’t be charged. However, I’ll cancel your appointment and open that date to other clients. You’re always welcome to book a new date once you’re ready to complete the forms.
Have a question about logistics before scheduling?
See my FAQ page, or use the contact form to ask me directly (scroll down to use the form). I respond within 1-2 business days, but usually much faster.
For questions, please contact me using the secure, HIPAA-compliant form below.
Online therapy via secure, HIPAA-compliant telehealth
Online Partner Betrayal Trauma Therapy in Massachusetts
I provide online partner betrayal trauma therapy to clients anywhere in Massachusetts.
Greater Boston: Boston • Cambridge • Brookline • Newton • Somerville • Medford • Arlington • Belmont • Watertown • Waltham • Dedham
MetroWest: Wellesley • Needham • Weston • Natick • Framingham • Sudbury • Concord
North Shore: Salem • Beverly • Marblehead • Swampscott • Lynn • Peabody • Gloucester • Newburyport
Merrimack Valley: Lowell • Lawrence • Andover • North Andover • Chelmsford • Haverhill
South Shore: Quincy and the South Shore • Milton • Braintree • Weymouth • Hingham • Duxbury • Plymouth
South Coast: Fall River • New Bedford • Dartmouth
Cape Cod and the Islands: Falmouth • Barnstable • Chatham • Provincetown • Martha’s Vineyard • Nantucket
Central Massachusetts: Worcester • Shrewsbury • Westborough • Leominster • Fitchburg
Western Massachusetts: Springfield • Holyoke • Northampton • Amherst • Longmeadow
The Berkshires: Pittsfield • Lenox • Great Barrington • Williamstown
Independently licensed in Massachusetts, LICSW #126480
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