Online Therapy for Betrayed Partners Across Colorado
Online Individual Therapy for Partner Betrayal Trauma in Colorado
Individual therapy for partner betrayal trauma, infidelity, and affairs in all of Colorado.
You keep replaying the relationship, trying to sort what was real from what wasn’t. The trip where they seemed unusually attentive, were they already involved with someone else by then? The late nights they said were work, were they?
You go back through years of memories looking for the exact point where the truth stopped and the lie started, and each pass leaves you trusting your own perception a little less. You built a life with this person without knowing what they were doing behind your back.
Now a phone buzzing at dinner makes your chest tighten before you’ve even looked at the screen, and a coworker’s name in casual conversation sends you scanning their face for something off. Watching your kids in the backyard, sitting in traffic, waiting for your partner at a restaurant, your body reacts to ordinary moments as if the discovery of the infidelity is happening again, and telling yourself the affair is over doesn’t stop it.
Your mind puts scenes together from whatever details you found, and they show up in a meeting, while you’re helping with homework, while you’re trying to fall asleep. Some days you go numb instead: you’re in the middle of a conversation and realize a few minutes later you weren’t following any of it.
You’ve been checking your partner’s location, old messages, and timestamps that don’t add up, cross-referencing all of it against whatever they told you that day.
Your shoulders stay up near your ears most of the day, your stomach is in knots before you’ve eaten anything, and you’ve had more headaches this month than you can count. Sleep isn’t much better: you wake up at odd hours with your heart racing and lie there until it passes. The person you were before the affair feels far away.
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Talk Therapy Falls Short for Betrayal Trauma
Accelerated Resolution Therapy is a body-based trauma modality.
The reason it works is because the effects of betrayal “live” in different parts of the brain than insight, skills, and understanding.
Having a clearer understanding of the affair, talking it through, or building better coping skills can be useful, but those don’t fundamentally change how your body responds when looping thoughts of the infidelity pop up in your day-to-day life.
What makes ART different from most therapy is the pace. Change happens within a session rather than across weeks or months, and many clients tend to describe the memories and images becoming more dull and losing their emotional intensity.
What Life Looks Like After You Heal Betrayal Trauma at the Root
Your body stops being on high-alert for more bad news. The jaw clenching, the stomach problems, the tension headaches, the 3am wakeups with your heart pounding stop being your baseline. You sleep through the night and your appetite returns. You wake up thinking about your day, not about what your partner did. The grief about what happened is still there, but it becomes possible for you to concentrate at work and show up for your children.
The images stop popping up. The scenes that have been showing up in your head when you’re trying not to think about them — the texts you found, the moment your partner admitted to the infidelity, the bank statements that didn’t make sense — stop coming up randomly. And when you do think about them, they feel dull. Clients describe the thoughts and images as feeling distant, like something that happened in the past, instead of something that keeps happening to them now. This means the anxiety and rumination stop on their own, without you having to “try.”
You stop measuring your worth by what your partner did. When you think about the affair now, you think of it as something your partner decided to do, and you stop asking what’s wrong with you every time the memory comes up. Whether or not your partner chooses you going forward, you know you’re worth choosing.
You trust your own judgment again. You make a decision about your marriage, your finances, or your living situation, and you don’t need to run it past three friends and your sister to make sure you’re not crazy. The fog of “what if I’m wrong about everything” clears, and you can see your options clearly enough to choose. The intrusive thoughts that have been telling you not to trust your partner, not to trust yourself, that you’re going to make a permanent mistake, lose their authority. You can recognize them as betrayal-driven, not as truth, and they don’t dictate what you do next.
You have bandwidth to spend on the people you love. Your daughter tells you about her math test on Friday afternoon, and instead of “how was it, mm-hm, that’s great,” you’re listening. As she’s talking, you notice she’s gotten taller. If you’re rebuilding your relationship, you can sit across from your partner and have the hard conversation without feeling like you’re going to throw up. If you’re leaving or if your partner left, you can sleep through your first night in the new place without staring at the ceiling, mentally replaying every sign you missed.
The facts of the betrayal don’t disappear, and you’ll still remember what happened. You can think about the discovery, the texts, or the affair partner and it feels like something that happened in the past, instead of something that keeps happening to you.
If you’re ready to learn about pricing and scheduling, see the fees page.
How We Heal Partner Betrayal Trauma at the Root in One Half-Day
Accelerated Resolution Therapy is an evidence-based trauma therapy. It uses back-and-forth eye movements.
You don’t talk about the betrayal in detail. Instead, you visualize the situation in your mind, as if you’re watching a scene of a movie.
During the session, we work to change the images and physical sensations your brain has stored, so that they stop intruding the way they have been.
In ART we say, “keep the knowledge, lose the pain.” By the end of the session, you’ll still know what happened and remember all of the facts. What you’ll lose is the uncomfortable bodily sensations, the unwelcome thoughts, and other symptoms that have been part of your daily life.
About Allyson Clemmons, LICSW
Colorado Partner Betrayal Trauma Therapist
My specialization in partner betrayal trauma emerged from years of treating infidelity as a couples therapist.
While couples work was essential for the relationship, I noticed betrayed partners also needed specialized individual therapy that wasn’t available.
Now, I work with betrayed partners in a half-day intensive format so that they can keep the knowledge of what happened and lose the pain that came with it.
You don’t need to manage infidelity trauma indefinitely. You can actually heal it.
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Betrayal Trauma Therapy Pricing
90-minute sessions are $750. My practice is private pay, meaning I don’t bill insurance directly. I can provide a Superbill if you’d like to pursue out-of-network reimbursement, and HSA/FSA cards are accepted.
ART is designed to address distressing memories and the emotional and physical reactions associated with them within a relatively brief course of treatment. Some clients experience substantial relief after their first appointment, while others benefit from additional sessions to address different memories or aspects of the betrayal. In the research studies on ART and trauma, most people completed 3-4 sessions.
We’ll assess your response to treatment after each session and discuss whether there’s anything else you’d like to address before scheduling another appointment.
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Self-Schedule or Contact Me Below
If you already know you would like to get scheduled, please do so using my secure, HIPAA-compliant calendar below. No need to contact me first unless you want to.
Here’s how scheduling, payment, and intake forms work —
Each 90-minute Accelerated Resolution Therapy (ART) session costs $750. You can schedule appointments one at a time. We’ll assess your response to treatment after each session and discuss whether there are additional memories or symptoms you’d like to address before scheduling another appointment. The typical course of treatment is 3-4 sessions.
Use my secure online calendar below to choose your first appointment date and time.
After scheduling, you’ll receive an email invitation to complete your new client forms, including your payment information and financial agreement.
Your appointment is confirmed once you’ve completed your forms. Your $750 session fee will be charged 24 hours before your appointment.
If your forms aren’t completed within 48 hours of scheduling, I’ll cancel the appointment and make that time available to other clients. You won’t be charged, and you’re welcome to schedule again when you’re ready.
Please note: I work with clients recovering from partner betrayal trauma in Oregon, Washington, Colorado, Massachusetts, and Florida. Due to state laws, you will need to be physically present in one of those states during our session(s).
Have a question about logistics before scheduling?
See my FAQ page, or use the contact form to ask me directly (scroll down to use the form). I respond within 2 business days, but usually much faster.
For questions, please contact me using the secure, HIPAA-compliant form below.
Serving All of Colorado via Secure, HIPAA-Compliant Telehealth
Online Betrayal Trauma Therapy Throughout Colorado
I provide online individual therapy for partner betrayal trauma to residents throughout Colorado, including:
Denver Metro: Denver • Cherry Creek • Washington Park • Highlands Ranch • Littleton • Centennial • Greenwood Village • Cherry Hills Village • Castle Rock • Lone Tree
Boulder County: Boulder • Superior • Louisville • Lafayette • Longmont
Colorado Springs Area: Colorado Springs • Monument • Woodland Park • Black Forest
Mountain Resort Towns: Aspen • Vail • Beaver Creek • Telluride • Steamboat Springs • Breckenridge • Crested Butte • Winter Park
Northern Colorado: Fort Collins • Loveland • Windsor • Greeley
Western Slope: Grand Junction • Glenwood Springs • Carbondale
Also serving: Durango • Pueblo • and all other Colorado locations via HIPAA-compliant telehealth